What Do Women Want March 24th, 2008


     photo credit: José Miguel Serrano 

    It’s a question that all men want to know. If you type that phrase into Google, you’ll get over 26,000,000 hits in under 1 second! A lot of the pages that turn up are in reference to the Mel Gibson movie, and you’ll also get some about women in the workplace, buying a car, and even hormone replacement therapy! But the majority of the sites pertain to offering men insight on exactly what it is that women want.

    Unfortunately, what women want and what men think women want are at two totally opposite ends of the spectrum. Men like to flaunt their material wealth around for women. It’s no secret that women like shiny things just as much as men, and men use this to true to snag as many women as possible. If this is what you want, that’s fine. I’m not here to judge. But the truth is that you’re probably going to attract a lot of shallow women with more issues than you’ll want to deal with!

    There are numerous books, websites, newsletters, and even services which offer to help men deal better with women. They offer suggestions on how to read body language, how to stand out from the rest, and some “consultants” will even go to bars and clubs with men to show them techniques to use “in the field”. But none of that is necessary. Sure, women send out subliminal signals and it helps to be able to identify them. It is important to note, however, that if you follow what you read, it will usually lead to quick, fleeting relationships that may leave you emptier than when you first started.

    In 1982, Dr. Edgar Gregarson conducted a study entitled Sexual Practices: The Story Of Human Sexuality. In this study, Dr. Gregerson

    . . . concluded that whereas the female body is off “pre-eminent” concern for mate selection, the male status is an afterthought to his economic status and socials skills [for a woman]. (Source)

    Why do women judge on the basis of money and social skills? It’s simple: women instinctively judge men on their ability to provide for offspring! It’s no secret that beautiful women are attracted to men in powerful positions (former Gov. Spitzer, anyone?), and the reason is that it could possible lead to a better life not only for her, and her children.

    If you are pursuing a woman, it is important to make that first interaction something memorable (this is when all the books and advice come in handy). But in order to keep her interest, it is not recommended that you lavish her with gifts and try to flaunt your wealth and status. If a woman wants it, she’ll go get it. Trust me. If you give expensive gifts, she’ll think you’re trying to buy her goodies, or even worse, she’ll just string you along until the gifts run out. Your best bet is to give what Playboy Magazine calls a “costly but worthless gift.” A perfect example is a night on the town, which may cost you, but won’t do her any good unless she genuinely likes you. Try it. And if she’s worth it, offer to drive her home in your new BMW.

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